I have always been very skeptic about a literature of this kind. It is somehow hard for me to ‘feel’ the book, just because of the teaching you to live or do this and you will achieve everything style of writing. But, as I have heard so many positive feedback about this book, I decided to give it a chance…
In my opinion, there were described quite obvious things and situations. Of course, what might seem obvious or even natural for one, might be completely something extraordinaire for other. Yes, there were also some things I didn’t enjoy. One of them was the feeling of author showing off his superiority over readers. What do I mean by that? Imagine that you are struggling with your life – work, family etc. And then you read that author spent one year in Hawaii, together with all his family, doing nothing, but writing a book and talking to his wife. And that’s only one of the examples. The second thing was mentioning of the God, but this case – that’s just me.
Despite those two minor things I didn’t like, overall – book was good. I also found some good tips that could help me improve my way of communication. And, in addition, here are some good quotes as well (translated from Latvian):
- The key is not to get things, but to find the mastery, to win over yourself.
- In order to make a contribution, that is relevant to the other person, it is necessary, that it is as important to him/her, as important this person is to you.
- The little things are important in the relationship.
- The essence of synergy is to appreciate the differences – to respect them, to build relationships based on their strengths and compensate for the weaknesses.
- We are not trying to imitate masters, we try to look for what they have been looking for.
- […] the strength of the relationship is based on different opinions. Equality is not unity; uniformity is not unity. Unity or harmony is complementarity, not equality. Equality is non-generic and boring. The essence of synergy is to appreciate the differences.
- […] the key to keep the love alive is conversations, especially – about feelings.
- Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.
- We see the world, not as it is, but as we are – or, as we are conditioned to see it.